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Core Lesson 1
Awareness ~ Reality ~ Hope
It's easier to see the gunk floating in the fish bowl when I view it from the outside.
Same concept when I'm living in the cesspool of addiction. (Whoa. I actually said that out loud.)
As crisis, fear, and anger flood over me, I lose sight of truth. That distorts reality.
Look, friend~ having a distorted reality is not good. Healthy reality keeps insanity out of my fishbowl.
Core Lesson 2
Reactions ~ Delayed Emotional Growth ~ Surrender
"When will my 25-year-old son stop acting like he's 13?"
The real problem here: Delayed emotional growth. It greatly impacts behaviors and decision
making abilities. The odds are good that DEG alters character traits & life skills of your loved one.
It's worth your sanity to spend some time with this lesson.
Core Lesson 3
Change ~ Boundaries ~ Trust
Get a grip on this fact: Boundaries are not punishments. We set up a boundary to protect
or meet needs of the family. If you enforce a boundary, some natural consequences
will probably occur. As a result, loved ones may experience pain or hopelessness.
Believe it or not - this is "helpful." Ouch! Really? Yes. Read more.
Core Lesson 4
Manipulate ~ Enable ~ Faith
Dad taught us how to drive. Coach taught us how to hit one out of the park.
Addicts taught us how to enable their addiction. Really? Uh - yes. Absolutely, yes!
Enabling is a learned behavior ~ and eventually unhealthy enabling hurts everyone involved.
Core Lesson 5
Acceptance ~ Detach with Love ~ Pursue Life
"When pushed to the edge of difficulty, you can trust God. Two things can happen:
Either God will catch you when you fall - or He will teach you how to fly."
The author of this quote is unknown. But here's what we do know:
Don't let fear keep you dangling on the edge of insanity!
Take the leap. Live the abundant life!
Discovery: Cardinal Rules for Helping
Good help versus bad help.
"Helping someone get through another day of addiction is not necessarily helping."
Is there ever a good time to help an addicted loved one? Check out this excerpt from:
The Four Seasons of Recovery for Parents of Alcoholics and Addicts
by Mike Speakman, L.I.S.A.C. speakmancoaching.com
Discovery: Take Out the Real Enemy
" For every child of God defeats this evil world, and we achieve this victory through our faith."
~ I John 5:4 ~ (NLT)
Whoa! Did you feel that? The thunder of truth just exploded from that verse!
We need to get a hold of this: When evil is defeated, fear does not exist.
Why should we ever entertain fear again? Contemplate this reality as you read more.